Stones of Remembrance
This was written by my mom a few years ago, to be shared at their 50th Wedding Anniversary celebration with family and friends. She has been sharing copies with friends ever since until now the print copies are gone. Thinking that it might be easier to share digitally, I add it now to my own stories, told in the voice of Mary Sider.
Stones of Remembrance
BACKGROUND
The
Bible study class at church was studying the book of Joshua and we were reading
the story of the people miraculously crossing the Jordan River. After getting across safely, God told the
leaders to pick twelve stones out of the river.
They were to carry them to the other side to build a memorial to
God. Joshua told them, “When your
children ask, ‘What do these stones mean?’ you are to tell them what God
did so amazingly to get the people across the river.”
As I
reflected on this story, I felt that Neale and I should build a “memorial
monument” to remember God’s wonderful intervention in our lives over the years
of our marriage. I mentioned it in the
group but did not put it into action.
Several
months later, a member of that group asked me if we would do a presentation at
Camp Kahquah’s Seniors Retreat. Neale
made some wood blocks to represent stones.
Together we built our memorial, sharing various stories of God’s amazing
grace in the circumstances of our married life.
It was an emotional time of reflection and praise to God for His
faithfulness.
I now
share these stories in print. I want my
children and grandchildren to have them as a reminder that this same God can do
miracles in their lives as well.
STONE NUMBER ONE –
Learning to Trust
As
Neale and I began our marriage, we agreed that God was the Head of our
home. We were very much in love, very
poor, and very sure we could trust God in every situation. In spite of birth control, we soon had four
children within five years. Young
children meant frequent illnesses.
We had
very little medical coverage, so every doctor’s visit was a financial crisis as
well as a worry about the sick child.
When there were earaches, sore throats or coughs, our first response was
to pray for God’s healing. Many times
fevers would come down and symptoms would improve with prayer. When a doctor’s visit was necessary, God gave
us a very understanding and supportive physician who would offer medical
samples from his shelves in order to save us money. Other times, he’d give me immunization
solutions and needles, so I could give the children their injections at home.
The
children thought that prayer was the normal approach to dealing with sickness
and would suggest this whenever anyone was sick. God was teaching us all to trust Him for our
daily needs, and He was always so faithful.
STONE NUMBER TWO –
Healing From Depression
God
made Himself very close to me through a difficult time months before Karl was
born. I found myself becoming depressed
when I realized I was pregnant with a fourth baby. I felt overwhelmed and unable to cope with
anything more.
During
one sleepless night, I got up to read from my Daily Light book of
scriptures. From that day’s reading, God
spoke to me from Isaiah 41:10-13.
“Fear not, for I AM with you, be not dismayed, for I AM your God. I will strengthen you, yes, I will help you. I will uphold you with the right hand of my
righteousness. For I the Lord your God
will hold your right hand, saying, ‘Fear not, I will help you’.”
From
that point on, my depression was lifted, and the joy of the Lord was truly my
strength. I had always had severe
morning sickness for the first three months with previous pregnancies. This time however, I never lost a meal! Praise the Lord.
STONE NUMBER THREE
– Dealing with Fear
Baby
Karl was just three months old when he became very sick with severe chest
congestion. That night he was unable to
suck when I tried to nurse him. His
colour became gray and he struggled to even breathe. Neale and I prayed and committed him to the
Lord, as we feared he was dying. We
rushed him to the hospital where we were told he had double pneumonia and was a
very sick baby! We were thankful that
medical help was available and he soon recovered.
Karl
was very sick almost every month after that. We would
get medicine, he would recover and then the cycle would start all over
again. I finally took him to a
pediatrician who diagnosed him as having asthmatic bronchitis. Karl seemed to have no immunity to withstand
infections. Each time the other children
got a cold, Karl would become very congested and experience
breathing difficulty.
We did
much praying over Karl, as he would struggle to breathe. We repeatedly saw him relax in his crib and
go to sleep when we would pray. Karl
soon began to expect prayer when he would feel his sickness starting. He’d say his ‘stomach’ hurt and in just a few
hours he’d be very sick.
One
night when I was getting Karl ready for bed, he said his stomach hurt. I responded with telling him that King David
in the Bible had said, “When I am afraid, I will trust in Thee, Oh Lord.”
(Psalm 56:3) I explained to him that God
understands when we are afraid and wants us to trust Him. I tucked him in and prayed before going to
bed, knowing I would not be getting much sleep that night.
Amazingly,
I woke up in the morning to find a small boy standing in the doorway of our
bedroom, his face aglow, saying, “Mommy, Daddy, Jesus was with me last night and I wasn’t
afraid!” What a testimony to us of God’s
faithfulness to His Word and His ability to meet the needs of a young child.
Over
the years, we had several times of special prayer for the healing of Karl. Dr. Ennis said he’d probably be a full
asthmatic by the time he grew older. At
five years of age, Karl was sent to Hamilton for allergy testing. By this time, Karl had his own relationship
with Jesus and was praying for Jesus to be with him that day. He had the tests, all of which turned out
negative and Karl grew to be a very healthy child! Praise the Lord!
STONE NUMBER FOUR
– Attitude Adjustment
Neale
and I were very busy in those years when the children were little. We had decided that it was best if I would
stay home to care for everyone rather than continuing with my nursing job. Neale worked five days a week for a local
contractor as a carpenter. He left early
in the morning, worked hard all day and returned home in time for supper. Then he’d clean up and be off to a church
committee meeting, or a quartet practice.
He sang baritone in the Wainfleet Gospel Four and they were out singing
almost every Sunday evening.
I found
it difficult to be solely responsible for the children so much of the
time. It was especially hard to go to
church Sunday evenings and try to care for the children alone. I complained to Neale about this situation
frequently. That was when the Lord
rebuked me about my complaining attitude, reminding me that I should be
thankful that my husband loved the Lord and His service.
One
evening, as Neale was on his way to quartet practice, he heard the Lord speak
to his heart saying, “It’s enough now; get a replacement.” It was very clear that this was the time for
change. He told the quartet that very
night and a young Ralph Sider soon joined the group. We were so amazed at God’s perfect timing in speaking
to each of us so clearly.
STONE NUMBER FIVE
– Emergency Surgery
The
summer that Karl was four years old, I agreed to go to Camp Kahquah as the Camp
Nurse for one week. Instead of
volunteering to care for others as I had planned, I suddenly found myself as a
patient in the Welland Hospital.
It
began with a feeling of abdominal pressure and some urinary frequency. Realizing that I hadn’t been to the doctor
for a check-up since Karl’s birth, I made an appointment for myself. Thinking that what he felt might be an
ovarian tumour, my doctor sent me to a gynecologist. Two weeks later, he informed me that “it” had
grown much larger and that I needed immediate surgery. My response was, “I can’t because I’m going
to camp!” During the next week, I had to cancel my plans, find care for the
children, and prepare myself and Neale for the experience. I told him that if it was cancerous, they’d
probably have to remove my uterus.
When I
woke up post-op, I found out that I’d had a hysterectomy. The doctor explained that it was a strange
growth coming from the uterus and growing into the bladder, but it was not
cancerous! We could only be thankful to
God for His timing in getting my attention to go for a check-up before too much
damage was done to the bladder. The
doctor said I could have been left with a drainage bag for the rest of my
life! We were beginning to understand
more about this wonderful relationship with our God, who was also the Creator
of our bodies.
STONE NUMBER SIX –
Carbon Monoxide Poisoning
Something
was wrong! The children were acting very
strange. It was early morning. Neale had gone to work and I was getting the
older ones ready for the school bus.
They were stretched out on the floor, looking pale and sleepy. The younger ones were still in bed. I felt exhausted and just wanted to sit down
and sleep. I suddenly got the urge to
phone my neighbour. My voice alerted her
to the fact that something was seriously wrong at our house. She came over immediately. We were staggering and retching as she rushed
us outside to safety. She then drove us
all to the hospital where we were administered oxygen.
Neale
was called home, very shaken and anxious to find out what was happening to his
family. The gas company was called in to investigate. As Neale retraced his steps, he remembered
starting the car and then leaving it to idle while eating breakfast. When he left for work, he opened the garage
door, backed out and then closed the door before driving away. I had turned up the thermostat on the
furnace, to get the house warm for the day.
After
hearing our story, the events were re-enacted to see what would happen. Sure enough, the house was soon filling up
with carbon monoxide fumes. With a vent
from the garage going to the attic of the house, the fumes were sucked into the
heating ducts of the furnace and the poison circulated throughout the entire
house.
We were
shaken to realize how close to death we had been. We then recognized that it was God giving me
the nudge to phone for help, causing my neighbour to quickly come to rescue
us. A disaster had been averted and God
was to be praised!
STONE NUMBER SEVEN
– Protection from Lightning (8:52 p.m. Mar 20, 1969)
Pouf! The whole world seemed to explode around
us. We instantly exchanged shocked,
questioning glances before the house was in total darkness.
We
found ourselves dashing to the doorway from our newly finished library staring
at a flaming hallway. The living room to the left was also in flames, with the
far wall a mass of fire. This was so
shocking that we barely realized that there was also a huge eight foot hole in
the far wall. There were piles of
plaster debris, broken furniture and pictures all around.
“Phone
the fire department,” Neale managed to say to me, but the phone was dead. We felt desperate at that point! The place was burning down and what could we
do?
My next
thought – the children! They had been
put to bed early after a busy day and were sound asleep. As I ran downstairs to the boys’ room, I
called out to Neale that I could hear a hissing sound in the basement. I was sure the gas would explode next. After Neale assured me that it was probably a
water pipe, the boys were hastily pulled out of bed and led upstairs in the
darkness. There was no time for shoes
and clothes.
After
getting Janet out of bed, we went out through the wind and rain to the car. Neale started right in to fight the
fire. The last thing I heard as I left
the house was the roar of the flames and Neale calling out in quiet desperation,
“Oh God, help us!”
He
began to use his hands to smother the flaming insulation paper that was burning
all over the hall. Turning to the living
room and grabbing a towel from a chair, he then used it to help smother the
flames burning on the wall, floor and furniture. Neale was beginning to feel relieved at his
progress in fire-fighting when he looked up through the charred studs to see
the attic aglow with fire. Now he knew
things were really bad!
In an
instant, Neale was in the library taking down our antique coal oil lamp from
the top shelf. He never carries matches,
but that day he had absentmindedly put a pack in his back pocket. Lighting the lamp, he handed it to a strange
man who appeared from the highway, and hoisted himself up through the manhole
into the attic. With the lamp in one
hand, he began to work to smother the electrical wiring which was burning
brightly. The wind was blowing through,
extinguishing the lamp so he stopped to relight it from the fire! (One does
funny things from habit when under stress.)
Neale had nothing to work with except his bare hands and it took a lot
to smother that fire. By working
quickly, this fire too was soon extinguished.
Meanwhile,
I had the children in the car, and had decided to leave them at our neighbours,
where I could also phone the fire department.
Usually the car is put in the garage and the keys brought inside. That day, I had neglected to put the car
away. The keys were still in the ignition
and no time was wasted. The Urquharts
were not home, so I drove back to our closest neighbour, the Postmas. Their lights were out too, but they were home
and urged me to leave the children where it was warm. I suggested they wrap them in some blankets
and Mr. Postma left to see if he could help Neale.
I still
had been unable to call the fire department, but really wasn’t fit to
drive. As I careened along a side road,
the car was pulled over on a soft shoulder, learning over at a crazy angle. Hastily shutting off the motor, I ran through
the mud and rain to phone for help at another neighbour’s. He drove me back home.
Instead of being engulfed in flames, the house
was unbelievably dark and quiet. Neale
could hardly believe the fire was totally out either.
The
next thing we knew, the fire trucks had pulled into Postma’s place next
door. They must be at the wrong
place! But no, smoke was pouring out at
the back of their house. Neale ran over
to learn that our children, Mrs. Postma, her daughter and grandsons were all
safe at another neighbourhood home.
Later we learned that when the ladies went upstairs to get blankets for
the children, they found smoke and were able to get everyone outside to safety
just in time.
By now,
we realized that it had been lightning that had hit our house. Dr. D. Henderson had been driving by to see
it happen. He described seeing the house
outlined in neon lights for an instant, and then all was dark except for a glow
inside. The same streak of lightning
must have hit the Postma’s house as well.
Later, we traced the path of destruction left behind.
Traveling
across the roof of the garage, the lowest part of the house, the lightning
burned holes right through the ridge cap.
At the end of the ridge, the charge traveled down the gable end
following the metal flashing until it found the electrical wiring that ended on
the wall. That is where it exploded,
pushing the end of the house right out!
The force lifted the floor several inches, breaking the floor boards,
and pushing down the furnace ducts. The
electrical wire disintegrated, burning tiny holes in the floor tile and carpet
all around. The phone was burned out
completely and the wiring that passed close to the furnace duct was burned
completely off. In the living room, a
T.V. table set was crumpled, a dining room chair shattered, with pieces strewn
as far away as the back entrance. The
coffee table was gouged deeply from flying plaster and a stuffed chair was
burned and blasted to the centre of the room.
Trace
with us now, the hand of God’s love, mercy and protection through this shocking
experience. Neale’s parents were
visiting for several days and would have been sitting with us in the living
room that evening. Instead, they had decided
to attend a Missionary Conference in Sherkston and took Kristine along. They would usually sleep on the living room
sofa. If this had happened later in the
evening, they surely would have been killed or severely injured. The three other children were in bed extra early,
so were not in the living room either.
A
friend from Welland had planned to drive out for a visit that evening, planning
to arrive around 8:30 p.m. but she never came.
She later said that she tried to come but kept being detained until it
seemed too late to get away. Had she
arrived as planned, we would have been visiting in the living room.
Neale
and I were studying and doing desk work in the library. I had done dishes up
late, just nicely getting out of the kitchen.
It wouldn’t have been safe there during the explosion, as burning debris
was flying everywhere. In the instant
when the plaster was hurtling down the hall, it would have meant instant death
to anyone in its path.
Janet
was sleeping with her head right at the edge of the bed by the open bedroom
door at the end of the hall. A huge
piece of heavy plaster was sitting on the floor beside her bed, right next to
her head. (These pieces of plaster had
been so forcefully hurled that wood door frames were smashed all along the
hall.) Bits of plaster were all over
Janet’s pillow and bed, but she didn’t even have a scratch. A light bulb had even exploded out of the
light fixture in that room, with bits of fine glass scattered everywhere. It was miraculous that at the time of the
fire, the children walked out of the house unharmed. The next day, we had to carefully pick our
way through the mess to avoid glass, long spikes, sharp plaster and splintered
wood.
Surely
the Lord God, who has such power over lightning and fire, deserves our devotion,
love and trust in every circumstance of life.
We are not left on our own, to struggle through life. As we ask Jesus Christ to take control of us,
He does come to live in us with all His power.
He created the whole universe, even the lightning and the thunder. We felt in a new way God’s great love for us
in the midst of this traumatic experience.
Very
early the next morning, God woke me with the words and music of the first line
of a song I barely knew.
God is love; His
mercy brightens
All the paths in
which we rove;
Bliss He wakes, and
woe He lightens,
God is wisdom, God is
love,
E’en the hour that
darkest seemeth
Will His changeless
goodness prove;
From the mist His
brightness streameth;
God is wisdom, God is
love.
STONE NUMBER EIGHT
– Emotional Healing
After
the trauma of the lightning incident, we suffered emotionally in different
ways. When Neale would see the pilot
light on the kitchen stove at night, he would be convinced there was a fire to
be put out again. Karl couldn’t sleep
through the night, but would continually wake up crying in fear. I’d react to every clap of thunder with a
“sinking stomach” and overpowering fear.
Karl’s
broken sleep was keeping us up at night for so long that I was about ready to
ask the doctor for a sedative. When I
met with a friend one day and we had a time of prayer, we asked God to remove
Karl’s fear so we could get some rest at night.
That very evening, Karl slept completely through the night and those
fears never returned.
The
Lord also gave me a dream in which I was back on my childhood farm with many
people. We were outdoors when suddenly
there was a loud clap of thunder. At the
same time, a trumpet blast was heard and we found ourselves rising up to meet
Jesus in the air! I woke up filled with
excitement and a clear memory of the dream.
The next time we had a thunder storm, I immediately thought of hearing
the trumpet of the Lord – and my fear was gone!
STONE NUMBER NINE
– Neale’s Illness
We had
moved into our new home on Perry Road just before Christmas of 1977. Neale was working steadily at his carpentry
job in order to meet our financial commitments.
As spring arrived, he complained of extreme fatigue and pain in his
knees. When he finally went to the doctor, blood work was ordered to be done
the next day.
On
April 18th, the doctor’s office called to tell us that Neale must go
to the Welland hospital the next day for complete bed rest and tests to
diagnose his illness. We learned later
from the nurse, that his “sed rate” was up to 128 when normal is 12 – 15! Suddenly, the bread winner was in the
hospital, very sick and I was left at home to care for the family’s needs. It was very stressful, especially as we did
not have a diagnosis. We sent out a call
to all the churches asking for prayer. With our children studying at NCC at the time,
that student body was also asked to pray!
God
began to minister to us in wonderful ways as so many people prayed. I found words of songs and verses of
scripture coming to my mind to encourage me throughout the days and
nights. Money gifts arrived in get well
cards on a daily basis. People came to
the hospital to visit and quietly left gifts of money. One friend gave me his gas credit card to
help cover the extra driving costs. The
outpouring of loving prayers and gifts was absolutely overwhelming.
One
night I found myself in tears, feeling so weak and in need of prayer for
myself. The very next morning, Aunt
Mattie Pye phoned to tell me her Women’s Bible Study group were all praying for
me. I felt so full of praise to God for
answering my prayer of the previous night.
The encouragement came right when I need it. Neale and I were both claiming Romans 8:28 – which says that all things work together for
good for those who love Him.
God’s
presence was also very close to Neale in the hospital. He tells of the closeness of Jesus being felt
with him during a painful bone marrow test.
He also had a rough man as a roommate, who at one time asked if he could
have some of his fruit. Neale had been
saving a big red apple to share with me and when his roommate came over, that
specific apple was the one that man chose to eat! This really upset Neale and bad feelings
overwhelmed him. That is when he heard
an inner voice say, “Inasmuch as you’ve done it unto the least of these, you’ve
done it unto Me”. As Neale pondered this
scripture, he still felt bad and said, “Yes, Lord, but…..”
Then he
heard that same voice say, “If I were to walk in here, would you give Me the
best fruit or the worst?”
“Oh
Lord, I’d give you the best!”
“Inasmuch
as you’ve done it unto the least of these, you’ve done it unto Me.”
Then
Neale said, “Yes Lord, I give it to You.”
What a beautiful lesson from Jesus.
Then, just to acknowledge his human nature, he put the rest of the fruit
in his drawer!
At
home, we were trying to deal with the fact that Neale might be terminally
ill. I spoke with the children regarding
this possibility and we prayed for God’s will, hoping for His healing touch to
restore health. I kept being reminded of
Psalm 23. The Good shepherd was with us
to lead and guide, so I kept choosing to trust and praise the Lord. One day, when I was working in the kitchen, a
thought came into my mind, “What will I do if Neale dies?”
Immediately
that inner Voice spoke with great authority, “Don’t you believe the Father’s
words?”
“Oh
yes, Lord, I believe. Please help my
unbelief,” I responded. This was a very
profound experience for me to realize in a fresh way how God was able to
monitor my thoughts.
Neale was so very discouraged one Sunday night
in the hospital, when God spoke to him from a verse on one of his cards. “The Eternal God is thy refuge, and
underneath are the Everlasting arms.” (Deut. 33:27)
Dr.
Leon came to see Neale at our request.
As a specialist, he reviewed his case, and felt that Neale was suffering
from a viral infection that affected muscles and joints. He had said that this virus would move to
other parts of the body, run its course and then leave. Since there was no special treatment or drug
to help, Neale was discharged from the hospital on May 10th, still
having a lot of pain.
Two
days later, when Arnold Marr visited us with his pastor, we had a lovely time
together and Neale was anointed and prayed for again. This was when we started to see rapid
improvement. Four days later, Neale
drove to Toronto Airport to get Lois Jean as she came home from Africa! Great fatigue remained but strength was
gradually returning. How did God provide
for our financial needs during this time?
Unemployment
insurance would not pay us anything because the doctor had said Neale’s fever
was ‘of unknown origin’ when he first went into the hospital. For eight weeks we had no income except from
donations that came in, some of which were from people we did not know
personally. These were mostly $10 to $25
amounts, with some as large as $100.
When
the unemployment cheque finally came, the donations ceased! We had never told people our needs at any time,
so we knew it was truly from God. Neale
added up the total of all we received and divided it by the eight weeks without
income to find that we had received $1 more each week than the unemployment
payments would have been! God was so
good in providing for our needs as we learned to trust Him more than ever before.
STONE NUMBER TEN –
Healed Grief
The
summer of 1992 was very difficult for us.
In June, Neale’s mother had died quite suddenly with pneumonia. She was not only Mother and Grandma, but my
very best friend. She was in her 93rd
year, a godly woman whom we loved and depended on for spiritual leadership.
We
hosted a lot of missionary guests that summer with the big event being David
and Jennifer’s wedding in our gazebo. Throughout all the busyness, a great
cloud of grief was hanging over me, seemingly unshakable. In September, Lois Jean left to go back to
Zambia. She had packed up the contents
of Grandma’s house except for the kitchen.
I promised to do that later. Each
time I would go to work on the kitchen, I would find myself in tears, unable to
deal with the grief. Sometimes I’d wait
until a friend would come to visit and then the two of us would work on the
kitchen clearing job.
When
everything was finally finished and packed up, we found places to store the
furniture in our home. We put Mother’s
green rocker up in our guest room along with her mother’s dresser, washstand
and chest. It looked so cozy and
inviting. One morning as I was going
past that room, I felt drawn to go in and sit down in Mother’s chair for a while.
This
chair had been where Mother would sit in her living room spending
hours in prayer for family and friends around the world. As I sat in it, it seemed like a misty cloud
surrounded me. There were no special
voices or even thoughts, just a sense of being closed off from the world and
surrounded by a sense of well-being.
After a while, the cloud lifted and I was filled with joy. The grief was gone! I went downstairs singing a song of praise to
God. What a wonderful experience!
STONE NUMBER
ELEVEN – “God Sightings” My Journey with
Cancer
(written in 2002 to
be sent with Christmas greetings)
THE MESSAGE
We had
just returned from a stimulating and relaxing Prayer Retreat in early
June. It was good to be home, and I was
anticipating a great summer. Family was
going to be gathering for an August reunion, and I was anticipating many good
times.
Suddenly
I was jolted by one of the answering machine messages. “Please call Dunnville Hospital X-Ray
Department to book a return appointment.”
I recently had my routine annual mammograms and was feeling
quite well. I remembered telling the
nurse in x-ray that I surely hoped if there was something growing in my body
that it would be identified. (My
friend’s breast cancer had been missed ‘till it was quite advanced.)
As I
sat there by the phone, with all these thoughts racing through my mind, I found
myself speaking out loud saying, “Lord, I refuse to live in fear this summer!”
Can you
believe it? All fear was gone and all I
felt was peace as I began the journey of tests and waiting for results.
THE X-RAY REPORT
My
doctor was greatly distressed as she shared the radiology report of a
calcification area which was very probably cancer in my left breast. My response was very spontaneous and calm. I explained how I commit each day to God in
prayer and trust Him to lead and guide me.
I saw this as a new experience that I could depend on the Lord to see me
through.
The
doctor was amazed at my faith, and I responded that faith is more than just
feeling spiritual in church – it’s for living life and dealing with the
possibility of cancer.
THE VERSE
One
Monday, on tape visitation in Dunnville, I was so impressed to share with my
shut-in friends a verse from Psalm 55:22 “Cast your cares on the Lord, and He
shall sustain you.”
I
shared this verse with at least six different people and I felt so confident
that if we do our part in giving our problems to God, He’ll do His part in
strengthening us. As I drove home at
noon, an inner voice said to me, “This verse is for you too!”
My
response was, “Thank you, Lord,”
THE SONG
The
surgery was scheduled for Monday, August 19, 2002. On the Friday of that weekend, I woke up with
the words and music of a song I had sung in church years ago. I didn’t hear the whole song – just the first
line. “Under His wings I am safely
abiding…”
The
next thing to do was find that old hymnal and read all the words. What assurance of God’s love and care! On Monday morning before surgery, Neale
suggested we sing this song before leaving for the hospital. There we were, sitting at the kitchen table
singing together, feeling the Father’s ‘wings’ of love and protection around us
both.
Under His wings I am safely abiding;
Tho’ the night deepens and tempests are wild,
Still I can trust Him, I know He will keep me.
He has redeemed me and I am His child.
Under His wings,
under His wings.
Who from His love can
sever!
Under His wings my
soul shall abide,
Safely abide forever.
Under His wings, what a refuge in sorrow!
How the heart yearningly turns to its rest.
Often when earth has no balm for my healing,
There I find comfort, and there I am blest.
Under His wings, O
what precious enjoyment!
There will I hide
till life’s trials are o’er;
Sheltered, protected,
no evil can harm me;
Resting in Jesus I’m
safe evermore.
THOUGHTS ON DEATH
One day
when I was recovering from the surgery, I watched a T.V. interview with a young
woman who’d been fighting cancer for ten years.
It was amazing to me to hear her calm statements about death. She said she had decided to die living,
rather than to live dying. She wasn’t
just waiting to die – she was travelling on vacations with friends and having
fun. She had even bought a house and a
new grand piano to play.
I sat
for a long time that afternoon, thinking about what death means to me. Thoughts and pictures from my childhood came
to me, as well as the importance of my relationship with Jesus Christ. I had prayed to receive Him into my life when
I was eight years old and had been nurturing that relationship ever since.
I had
this picture of two children playing together at one child’s home. When they got bored, they got permission to
go to the other child’s home to play there.
They were so happy being together.
This picture and its application moved me deeply. I saw that just as my life here with Jesus
Christ as my friend and guide is so satisfying, so it will be perfectly good when
He says, “It’s time to come and live with Me in My home.” He’ll hold my hand as I cross over from here
to there.
When I
die, I want my family and friends to remember this picture and realize that
I’ve gone to His place forever to be with Him.
CANCER TREATMENT
This
cancer journey alters one’s life quite drastically. Part of dealing with early breast cancer is
undergoing radiation treatments. One is
introduced to many different doctors, nurses and therapists at the Cancer
Clinic. I was told I would have a total
of sixteen radiation treatments spread over three weeks.
This
involves stripping to the waist, putting on a gown and sitting in a waiting
area, until your name is called. Then it
means lying on a hard table in a very exact position with the affected arm extended
on a shelf, grasping a handle. The
breast is exposed – measurements are checked by two therapists, everything
needing to be very precise. The table is
raised up high, everyone leaves the room and the radiation machine buzzes. All one can do is lie there alone and
perfectly still.
I
usually didn’t think about anything in particular during this procedure. During one treatment in the second week, I
lay there feeling more vulnerable than usual and wondering just what was going
on “in my poor body”. As the machine
buzzed, it was as if I had a screen in my mind, and across it moved these
words, “This is My body, broken for you.”
Then the picture was gone. I
finished treatment, got dressed and came home.
I’ve
thought on this a lot since. I think God
was there with me, reminding me that He understands. He was stripped, hung on a cross, with His body
mutilated. This He did for us, so that
our sins could be forgiven. My suffering
is nothing compared to His. The
communion ritual at church will never be the same for me. My I always remember that His suffering was
for me!
2 Corinthians 1: 3-4 MSG
“All praise to the God
and Father of our Master, Jesus the Messiah!
Father of all mercy! God of all
healing counsel! He comes alongside us
when we go through hard times, and before you know it, He brings us alongside
someone else who is going through hard times so that we can be there for that
person just as God was there for us.”
I did have a wonderful summer,
enjoying many activities with family and friends, all without fear. God’s peace was like a security blanket
wrapped snugly around me, keeping out the cold of fear. I felt so blessed to have loving family and
friends supporting with prayers on my behalf.
STONE NUMBER
TWELVE – Paraphrase of Psalm 118
(written as a
Christmas Letter 2005)
Give thanks to the
Lord, for He is good;
His love endures forever.
Let the house of
Neale and Mary Sider say:
His love endures forever.
Let all of our
friends say:
His love endures forever.
In my anguish of pain
in feet and back
I cried to the Lord
and He answered by reminding me
His strength is made
perfect in weakness.
The Lord is with us,
we’ll not be afraid.
He is our helper and
encourager.
The Lord is our
strength as we struggle with the pain of a daughter’s broken marriage.
He is also our joy as
we celebrate new beginnings with the second marriage of our son.
The Lord’s right hand
has done mighty things!
His love endures forever.
We give thanks for
quality time spent with family and friends at home and at Camp Kahquah.
We give thanks for a
wonderful trip to Hong Kong, for the kindness of Johnny and Buffy and families.
We give thanks for a
bountiful harvest in our garden,
And for the provision
of a reliable car at low cost.
We give thanks for
God’s faithfulness in releasing Grandma Wideman from her suffering
And giving us His
very Presence to heal our grieving hearts.
The Lord has done
this, and it’s marvellous in our eyes.
This is the day the
Lord has made.
Let us rejoice and be
glad!
O Lord, grant our
friends and family success and health.
May the New Year be a
year to bless Your name
And to anticipate
Christ’s coming again.
You are our God, and
we give you thanks.
God is good: His love endures
forever.
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